“St Edmund’s Charity as it has helped me become the person I am today and I like who I am today.”

I arrived at St Edmund’s Charity in 1993/4 after spending a year with Turning Point in rehab, I was a very negative person at the time and I chose to come to St Ed’s as I had never been sober and paid a utility bill in my adult life. I was unsure if I could live independently without alcohol as I had never done so before. I had been drinking for 22yrs and I was only 34yrs old.

After doing all the paper work with Debbie, who was the Manager at the time I was given the keys to flat 1 at 87

“Put the effort in and you can have the kind of life you have wanted.”

I went into that flat and I honestly didn’t know where to start, should I put my things away or should I clean this flat to my standard “I had become a clean freak”. The flat had been cleaned after the last resident left and before I became a resident but not to my standard!!! I cleaned the flat and I settled in. I was given some money for new crockery & cutlery as I had very little when I moved in.

I got myself into a routine doing my support and allowing myself time to get used to living alone without alcohol. I learnt to cook for myself; this is something else I had never done. Yes it might sound ridiculous but this was something I had not done for me, I’d cooked for a family, I can take care of others, I just couldn’t take care of myself. I was never worth the effort. I found it difficult to go to bed and sleep. St Ed’s taught me all I needed to know about looking after myself!! The one thing people who abuse themselves struggle with is the opposite to abuse, look after one’s self while sober!!!

“I got myself into a routine doing my support and allowing myself time to get used to living alone without alcohol.”

I have been sober ever since. That is not to say life has been a bunch of roses because I tell you it hasn’t. I have been divorced, had to buy my own house and pay for it. Work hard in order to pay for my utilities, feed myself and I buried my Mum. I have been given a granddaughter by my wonderful daughter who was very supportive even though she was only young and I have been successful in what I have chosen to do as life can be wonderful.

“I have a very soft spot for

St Edmund’s Charity as it has helped me become the person I am today and I like who I am today.”

I have a very soft spot for St Edmund’s Charity as it has helped me become the person I am today and I like who I am today.

If you want sobriety and you want to live a sober healthy life you can have it but remember you have to work at it, it will not come to you, put the effort in and you can have the kind of life you have wanted.